Harvey Specter Confidence Breakdown
Be Confident & Charismatic like Harvey Specter
After in-depth research, I’ve found the keys to unlocking Harvey Specter’s inner confidence and his charisma.
It’s your time to feel and act like Harvey Specter does in the TV drama, Suits.
Let’s begin with the keys to be confident like Harvey Specter…
1. Raise Your Standards:
How you feel on the inside is a consequence of the actions you take each day. No rocket science there. But what many of us do is let ourselves off easy. We go in to make a sale and “hope” that the client will talk to us, giving up too quickly.
And when we get home, we know we should go to the gym, but instead, we sit at home, watching TV, eating Oreos. Harvey Specter, throughout the show, holds himself to a higher standard than his peers.
He doesn’t hope to win, he expects it. He promises it. His standard is success. As this scene depicts perfectly, he’s set bar higher than his peers for years.
This elite standard fuels his inner belief in himself, which translates to his continued success. The continued success then ignites even more confidence.
You must raise your standards to feel more confident. Try stealing Harvey’s standards for a week, live by them, and see what happens to your confidence.
2. Express Yourself:
Have you ever wanted to share something about yourself, but instead, you kept it in? And when was the last time you felt trapped in your head? Unable to communicate your thoughts and feelings? Although coaching can be the best way to blast through this, expressing yourself openly is a powerful cure for feeling more confident.
The more you express your authentic self, the more empowered you feel. In the show, Harvey Specter always speaks his mind. He never represses his thoughts. (Until season 5 – and remember what happens to his confidence?)
When someone crosses the line, he tells them. If he needs to make his point, he does so with certainty. Aim for this standard in your life. You’ll feel more confident, like Harvey Specter, when you do.
If you want help expressing yourself openly, and with more confidence, watch this quick 60 second video…
3. Hold Yourself Up Right:
Body language cannot be ignored. Dr. Cuddy of Harvard discusses and shows how important your body language is in determining how confident you’ll feel, in her TED talk that’s linked above.
One reason Harvey Specter is so confident is that he always carries himself upright.
He’s never slouched, never looking down. He’s made it a habit to hold amazing body language. Do the same. Pull your shoulders back, keep your chin up, and walk with your head held high. It makes all the difference in the world.
Not only in how you feel, but also, holding yourself upright like Harvey makes you appear more confident and charismatic, too.
Life favors the prepared. Harvey Specter never walks into a courtroom, a settlement negotiation, or even a simple meeting without being buttoned up and prepared fully.
But how about you… Have you ever skipped out on doing the homework before class, so to speak? Tsk tsk. Remember, raise your standards.
When you know your material cold, you feel more confident.
And although you may not have a genius in Mike Ross to help you get ready, you have yourself to rely on, and that, is all you need. Over-prepare so you can boom with confidence.
An equally important of Harvey’s confidence comes from his smooth social skills.
In what follows, you’re going to learn 3-keys for being your most charismatic and smooth self socially, just like Harvey.
Steal 3 of Harvey Specter’s most charismatic, smooth social skills, right here…
1. Harvey Stays Light and Calm Under Pressure
You can learn to stay calm and composed under pressure, too.
Exercises to help you train your ability to stay light and calm under pressure include regular high intensity exercise, meditation, and cold showers.
Doing each activities regularly trains you to stay relaxed and emotionally light.
And getting this right is paramount to your success as a man. The most successful, attractive men know that staying cool under the heat is how they get ahead!
Carrying yourself in a light and playful way when the going gets tough establishes you as a leader. We admire and respect individuals who keep it cool when everyone else loses their head.
If you’d like to start becoming icy cool under pressure, build these new habits of regular meditation, cold showers, and exercise into your lifestyle. For a quality guide on how to do just that, bookmark this in-depth blog post.
2. Harvey is the Master of His Facial Expressions
In the show, you see countless examples of Harvey Specter’s facial expressions. And how they help him express himself charismatically. From the wink to the poker face to the smirk to the genuine smile, you too want to focus on your facial expressions.
Many men forget about how important it is to master their facial expressions. And they look like big goofballs, or even creeps, for it!
Don’t be this guy! Be conscious of your facial expressions! They’re paramount to making a killer first impression romantically, professionally, and socially. Here’s why…
Your face is the very first place people look.
For more on mastering your smooth facial expressions like Harvey Specter, so you can unlock more charisma and power, watch this video…
If you’re looking angry, awkward, or uncomfortable based on your facial cues, people will immediately be put off by you. And you don’t want that… do you?
Be like Harvey Specter instead. Work on your poker face, your smirk, and of course — your wink. 😉
3. Work on Your Sub-communications
Most people think it’s the words they say that matter most. Well… Most people are wrong. The truth is, your sub communications matter far more.
But what are sub-communcations?
As the graph below shows, your sub-communications include your tone of voice, gestures, facial expressions, and body language.
It’s in the subtly that you convey your charisma.
And this is what Harvey Specter has mastered in the show. Whether it’s ability to use sarcasm, wit, or his comfort with holding long pauses in conversation, Mr. Specter has his sub-communications dialed in.
Luckily, you can quickly improve your sub communications, too. What follows are two quick ways you can sharpen your social skills by improving your sub-communications.
First, speak more slowly.
Most guys, especially in pressure filled situations, speak too quickly. They speak as if they’re in a footrace. Don’t do this. Instead, breathe deep, pause frequently, and slow the pace of your speech.
To see what this looks like, I have a resource for you. This 60 second video shows you what speaking more slowly looks like.
What follows is a recording of me successfully asking a woman out. Notice how my vocal pacing is controlled, slow, and steady. This is what you want to aim for…
Secondly, start working on a more nonchalant tone of voice. A nonchalant tone of voice will not only make you appear more confident and smooth. Speaking nonchalantly when the pressure is on is how you stand out as a confident leader.
It’s also a great way to make your normal comments sound humorous.
In fact, the nonchalant tone of voice is probably the #1 secret to mastering your dry sense of humor. If you’d like more assistance nailing this smooth, charismatic social ability, check out the blog post I wrote for you on that very topic, right here.
There it is my friend. Your guide to becoming confident and charismatic like Harvey Specter. But, before we wrap this up, I have to ask you..
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